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I haven't found much time to blog lately but I hate just leaving the place to gather dust so I thought I'd post a quick one. I've been pondering the idea of deleting the blog again. The reason being, I think if I have to struggle to organize time so that I can get on here and write something then maybe it just isn't something I'm passionate about anymore. The only thing that keeps me coming back to the blogs is other people's writing. I like reading what others are up to on their blogs plus the connections I've made and honestly, right now, that is the only thing that has kept me from closing the blog. Blogging for almost 5 yrs has made for some great friendships :)

With that said... I'm just not sure, so...

I've been trying to focus on quite a few things recently. #1 Writing More. #2 Country Home Hunting. #3 Preparing for said life in the country (canning, knitting, gardening, etc...) and #4 reading more books.

#1 Writing
Well, I never talked about my writing so I won't start now.

#2 The House Hunting
Not going as well as I expected. My hubby and I are planning an "eventual" move north and thought now would be the perfect time to buy a home, with the market being what it is. Turns out, the people up north haven't noticed the down turn in the market yet. Actually, it isn't really the people up north, it is the people here in the cities that own the homes up north that we went to look up. I can't say I blame them though. If we had to sell our home right now I certainly wouldn't want to take a loss on it. The market is scary and after all the work we've done on our own home it would be heartbreaking just to sell if for pennies. So we are waiting for the perfect opportunity to present itself so we can have our life in the country that we always dreamed of.

#3 Preparing for the Country Life
Years ago when I told my mother I wanted to be a farmer (I was a child), she would laugh. Not a rude laugh, my mother was never rude, she would giggle and remind me that farmers would wake up at 5 a.m. and I couldn't manage to crawl out of bed before noon. Ok, not quite that late but you get my point. When I got older and managed to drag myself out of bed when the birds began to sing my mother rained on my parade once again by informing me that country life was much different than city life (she grew up like Laura Ingles so she knew what she was talking about). I knew country life was different but it took my purchasing the "Countryside Magazine" to figure out just how different it was. Canning foods for long winters was the first thing that caught my attention. I would talk about canning, read about canning, think about canning, but didn't get the courage to actually CAN until last year. The reason being, because no matter how much I learned about canning I could never shake all the horror stories I heard as a kid. My grandmother passed on a story about how a pressure cooker blew up in someones face and then of course there were the stories drifting around about getting botulism from improperly preserved foods. YIKES! So last year I canned my first batch of strawberry jam and after about a month I tossed it all out because I was too afraid to try it. How is that for neurotic.Well, I decided to try again. This year I thought I'd attempt dill pickles. I planted my garden, got a great bunch of cucumbers. The dill was ready long before the cucumbers so I ended up buying the dill at the store. Found a "how to video" online (I'm a visual learner) and gave it a shot.

My harvest:

Of course, it didn't go so well.

I THOUGHT I had the right size pan for the size jars I was using. Turned out I was wrong. Ya see, there is a label on the pan that states what size jars it fits and you'd think I would read that but nooooooo, that would have been way too easy. Instead I just guessed and my guess turned out to be wrong. After canning several jars of dill pickles I had no pan to place them in. I made a mad dash to a local store but they didn't have a large enough pan either. It was already late in the evening and everywhere else was closed. The dill pickles were trashed. So I tried again.

Got the right pan this time:

And made some pickles:

I've since learned again that I didn't do them exactly right but I'm getting closer to perfection. I will open these in 6 weeks and see how they turned out.

#4 Reading More Books

Right now I'm reading two books. Alternating back and forth, which my kids think is weird but I like it. "On Writing" by Stephen King. I read it when it was first published and here I am reading it again. The other book I'm reading was a title suggested to me. I'm actually enjoying it, which is a surprise because I'm not a big fan of fiction. (which you are now probably scratching your head at considering I'm reading ANYTHING by Stephen King). The book is called Miss Peregrines Home of Peculiar Children. It isn't even adult fiction, it came from the teen section, but when two adults suggest it, why not, right?

So that is what keeps my mind busy right now. Along with the bees, which are doing well. The bunnies, one of which is really really sick and probably won't make it. The children, getting ready to return to school next week and quite a few other things in between but I won't bore you any further with the details.

Before I sign off I want to say thank you to DixieBelle over at Eat at Dixie Belles for her generous blog award. I promise to post about that one soon. I'm compiling a list of bloggers to share it with :)
On July 10 my family and I took a trip to the Boundary Waters in Ely, MN. This was our 2nd time visiting the area. The first time was in February this year for a dog sledding trip and this time around it was for some canoeing. I've always wanted to (#1) canoe in the Boundary Waters and (#2) swim in one of the beautiful BWCA lakes but neither my husband or I could read a topography map very well, much less use a compass so... we got lucky.
My daughter Maya and her friend Kim have started a new blog called GENERATION OF THE WOLF. They plan on using the blog to share their thoughts about wolves and to sell their drawings in order to raise money for the International Wolf Center in Minnesota.
Hard to imagine that within hours of "fixing" our backyard water issues the yard is once again flooded. After going to bed with this:
Our water issues are solved... at least I hope so. This is the first time we've ever used a landscaper and I'm glad we did. Since we moved into our home the backyard has been one big pain after another. First we had to remove numerous dead trees and way too many buckthorn to count, second was the rock. Rock, rock,
We had a good turn out at the rally for the right to know. Lot of great speakers and creative signs. I was surprised at how many people are TRULY dedicated to this cause especially on Saturday when it was only in the 20's, we were all freezing our butts off, but... we were all happy to be there fighting for what we believe in.
When you make travel a family event you need to find the perfect place. One that not only provides entertainment but SAFETY. I've always been amused by dogsledding, just didn't have the nerve to try it. All I could think about is how cold those mushers must be. I like winter, but not to the point that I want to sacrifice warmth for entertainment. Plus, my only reference for dogsledding are the movies I've seen and

For over a year now my friend Angie has been trying to convince me to try the "neti pot." I had read a little bit about it several years ago but the thought of running water through my sinuses brought back bad memories of the time I almost drown, 


5:46 PM, in
I almost forgot to blog "HAPPY NEW YEAR" to all of you in cyberland. I cannot believe it is already New Years Eve. I'm not one for cocktails or clubbing, the hubby and I don't care for alcohol and big crowds, so we are hunkered down at home for the night with the kids. Possibly sitting up til midnight to watch that ball thingy come down in New York City (not sure exactly why we do that).


3:09 PM, in
I hope everyone out in cyberland has a beautiful Christmas and a joy filled new year!
All Natural

Those terms on a label seem pretty clear, right? Don't be too sure.

Over the years, struggling to understand ingredient lists, reading what I can on how things are processed, whether or not something starts natural and remains so after processing, how products earn their "organic" labels, so on and so forth, I've learned that just being able to read a label and know what the ingredients are isn't good enough anymore.


7:18 PM, in
Hey bloggers!

I've decided to take a break from this blog for a while. I'm back in school studying aromatherapy (AGAIN)... this time I'm actually getting a degree in the program instead of a certificate and therefore will be able to use it for consulting and writing purposes. Woohoo! I'll actually know what I'm talking about. Anatomy and Physiology is a lot more involved than I anticipated and have lots and lots to focus on so I won't be able to blog anything too serious or facebook for a while. With my studies, my kids going back to school, my bees to take care of, and trying to get my website back up and running again, among a trillion other things, I'm just going to let this blog collect some dust for a bit. I look forward to coming back and reading what everyone else is up to on their blogs though.. hopefully when I'm on the run I can do that from my phone :)
One thing that I learned in college that stuck with me more than interview etiquette is how to put together a resume. You'd almost think my professors beat the "protocol" into me because I've become a very nit picky person about how resumes make a potential employee appear to potential employers. I've put together a list that doesn't include what lots of other sites have covered. These are just the things I think that most people either don't know or are confused about when they put their resume together.

1. If you don't know how to put your resume together DEFINITELY work with a template like the ones in microsoft word. Most of them are laid out perfectly and require your input in specific locations. Just follow the visual guide and you'll get most of it. It is always better to follow a template than to wing it on your own if you have no idea what you are doing.

2. If you are using a template, don't include the fancy graphics that come along with it. The colors, boxes, lines, etc... can be distracting to the reader. There is no need to be cute because employers aren't interested in that. Simple and to the point is what employers want. Tip: employers are busy and want to spend as little time on resumes as possible so if they get distracted by fancy graphics they might just miss the finer points of your resume. Bullets are great, italicizing is also helpful, but graphics are useless.

3. Do limit the pages of your resume but... I've learned that it depends on the job you are seeking. If you are hoping to be employed as a CEO of a fortune 500 company it will serve you well to list all the experience you have and if it takes up 3 pages than fill it up. For most positions you are setting yourself up to be "ignored" if you have a long resume and I'm not talking about that job as a professor at the University (another job that would require sharing as much as you can on experience and education). I'm talking about the average jobs. You really don't need to submit a three page resume for a position as a librarian or a job as an administrative assistant. Do at least one full page but try hard not to go past two.

4. Your objective: don't say your objective is to gain employment as a janitor when applying for a secretarial position. Yes, this does happen. The problem is that people put together resumes and then save them for when they want to apply for a job, so when it comes time to submit them they touch up the areas of employment but they ALWAYS forget the objective. Make sure you review the objective for each and every job you apply for because the objective is the FIRST thing employers read.

5. Don't spend a lot of time listing experience that doesn't relate to the position you're applying for. If you are applying as a house cleaner it is unlikely the employer cares that you can type 90 wpm. The entirety of your resume should reflect the job you are applying for so only list relevant work history and education related to the position you want. The only exception to this is a major gap in work history. If you are applying for a job as a secretary and the past work includes secretarial jobs but there is a 2 year period where you worked as a teacher or something else, it serves you well to list it because any job is better than a gap in employment. Some employers will just ask in the interview why there is a gap in employment and others will toss the resume assuming the gap is a reflection of something negative but you won't know which one will be reviewing YOUR resume.

6. Do list jobs in chronological order and MAKE SURE IT ALL FLOWS WELL. Example: If line one is current job (2010) and line two is the job you had before that (2007) then the third line should be the job you had before the 2nd to the first. Don't do this:

2010 (current job)
2007 (next job)
2004 (other job)
2006 (other job)

There isn't a single employer that wants to sift through resumes that make their eyes spin. It is tough enough to go through 70 resumes but even worse to go through resumes you have to figure out what they are saying.

7. Don't list job references or personal references on the resume. Some people think this is etiquette but it really isn't. Employers are going to ask for references during or after an interview, I've not known one to ask for them beforehand. With this make sure you give the employer work references along with those personal references. I've known potential employees to forget to submit the work references quite often after they've been requested. I'll receive a list of personal references instead. It isn't deliberate but interesting that it happens more often than not.

8. Please do a lot of proof reading or better yet, have someone proof your resume for you. I'm one of those people that grit my teeth when something is misspelled (ignore my misspellings on this blog!) I've seen resumes where every other word is misspelled. If english is your 2nd language and you aren't sure about the spelling, just ask a friend to proof for you and make corrections. Each employer has their reasons for why misspellings make them tear their hair out so avoid misspellings and along with that avoid poor grammar because if you don't the 2nd line into your resume could be the moment it hits the trash.

9. Don't send in a resume for a job you have no experience in. If you do this you are just wasting your time and the time of the employer. Doing so will not by some miracle get you an interview. No experience = no job in todays market. You MUST have something to offer the employer!

10. Don't throw a hissy fit when the potential employer asks you to fill out an application after you've submitted your resume. A lot of people think that the resume was sufficient because essentially they are going to repeat on the application 90% of what was on the resume but... a resume is not a legal document the way an application is. You sign your application and your giving oath to several things on that document, one being that you haven't lied about the content of your app., and another usually being that you have no criminal background. So just fill out the application with a smile, you'll get through it just fine.

11. Do use a legible font when you type your resume. Don't use anything like a fancy "giselle" font because cursive can be hard to read when it is typewritten. Use Ariel, Ariel Narrow or Times New Roman. Bolding headings is a good idea because it helps the eyes. Don't include color, example: don't highlight anything red so it stands out more. Make sure the entire resume is the same font, don't get carried away using numerous fonts.

12. Don't forget to list how the employer can reach you, this would include name, number, and email address.

13. Don't list hobbies. I file this under sharing too much info about yourself. Sure, share it in the interview if they ask you "tell me about yourself" but generally I haven't met an employer that really takes hobbies into consideration when hiring and depending on what the hobbies are, it could backfire.

14. Don't show employment gaps and jobs you've held for a short time or be ready to explain them. Something that really hurts on a resume is a gap in employment or short term work. If you were employed Sept. 2009 to Jan. 2010 and you list that on your resume, it could be a red flag to the employer that you aren't dependable. Depending on the rest of the content on your resume it could be cause to take a pass on interviewing you. Same with gap in employment. If your resume is weak than the employer might not take the time to ask you why it is that you didn't show any work during May 2007 and June 2009. I even tell my kids that this is something they should always keep in mind when they become a part of the working world.

Remember, the resume is all about getting your foot in the door for an interview. Don't confuse the resume with the interview itself. With the resume you are trying to create a "wow factor" that makes the employer want to call you. Focus on the important in as few words as possible!


I decided after talking to several people about this that I wanted to share some information on putting a resume together and doing interviews for potential employers. I am surprised how many people are not aware of interview/resume etiquette. At first I thought it was a generational gap but it turns out that many of my peers are in the dark on this. I'm going to do this in 3 separate posts. First: Interviewing etiquette. Two: The do's and don'ts on a resume. Three: The "OH NO YOU DIDN'T" Interviews I've had.

This information is NOT based on personal "opinion". I'll be sharing things that have been passed on to me from employers, from teachers in high school, from a course I took in college and from the experience I've received being part of the hiring process in companies I've worked for (as Director of Communications and Administrative Assistant positions), plus my 3+ years of experience as a manager of healthcare workers.

In this list I will tell you why you should or shouldn't do something.

1. When you are called for an interview, sound enthusiastic (even if you aren't). Whether we like it or not, employers are already forming an opinion about you when they hear the attitude in your voice. Don't sound frumpy like Eeyore from Winnie the Poo. Nothing says "I really don't want this job but I have to get it" for whatever reason, like a frumpy voice.

2. Dress conservative when going to an interview even if the job you're seeking is construction work. How you dress isn't so much about the position you are seeking as it is about showing respect to your potential employer.

3. ALWAYS shake the employers hand and greet them professionally. Included in this is firm handshake (not squeeze them to the ground handshake or limpy wimpy handshake) and eye contact. In America, firm handshake and eye contact shows confidence. Other countries, this can be the opposite, but here in the U.S it is a must. 
The first impression is 90% of the interview and that first impression happens in the FIRST 5 minutes. It is difficult for employers to shake off certain physical characteristics of an interviewee which leads me to #4.

4. Cover the tattoo and piercings! Like it or not, tattoos say two things about a person. One: they are followers (before you get huffy on this, look around you. 99% of the population didn't get a tattoo until it was popular to do so) and two: they are rebels. Of course, this doesn't speak for everyone as a whole, my husband got a tattoo for spiritual reasons and had it done in a spiritual manner, but stereotypes come about for a reason and although they are wrong, people have a hard time separating the stereotype from the person. Employers are no exception. Generally, an employer doesn't want an employee that can't think independently and they don't want an employee that can't follow instruction. If your potential employer doesn't have the time to take the risk on you, THEY WON'T. Cover the tattoos and piercings until you get the position and the employer has the time to get to know you. Yes, feel free to ask if your tattoo or piercing (THAT IS COVERED DURING THE INTERVIEW) should remain covered during work hours because some companies demand it and you'd want to know that ahead of time to prevent problems later. Most employers don't care if you have a tattoo or piercing, they just don't want to see them at an interview. It is all about respect, respect, respect.

5. DO NOT ACCEPT CELL PHONE CALLS OR TEXTS DURING AN INTERVIEW. This should need no explanation but seriously I guess it does because this actually happened to me. Besides being obviously RUDE, it says several things about an interviewee. One: you aren't that interested in the job, Two: you can't get through 30 minutes much less 8 hours without talking or texting on the cell, Three: your phone is your life-line and you can't manage without it, even manage to do your work. It is one thing if you forgot to turn your phone off, in which case you'd apologize to the potential employer and then turn off the phone or if you have an emergency call (and it better be a REAL emergency) coming through, explain that BEFORE the interview starts so that no one is caught unprepared.

6. Don't ask about salary during an interview. There has been some serious misconception about this. Every employer knows that you as the potential employee needs or wants money or you wouldn't be interviewing for the job, you don't have to shout it out by asking what the pay is. It means you care more about the money than you do the job and you want to give several impressions in a job interview. One: you want the employer to believe you are sincerely interested in the work you'll be doing, two: you want the employer to believe that work is first and money is second. That isn't true for most people and employers know it, this is where "unwritten" etiquette comes in. Employers know you need/want money but they want to feel/believe that your heart is into this job (whether it is or isn't) and that you really don't care about the pay (even though you do). Few words speak volumes and in this case it yells greed. Most employers won't admit this but I guarantee it is what they are thinking. No one wants someone who obviously is driven by the almighty dollar because it leads to other thoughts about that potential employee, thoughts like will this person stick with us if the company struggles financially, will they always be harping on the employer over raises and benefits, will this employee be remain productive even if the salary demands can't be met, etc... Some companies can't give you a hefty raise every year so if your eyes read $$$$, you won't get hired. Save the questions about salary for when you are offered a job. You might feel like you've wasted your time if you need $20/hr and you learn later you can only make $10/hr but time is not wasted in any interview. All interviews should be considered valuable experience. The more you interview the better you'll get at it. Asking about money isn't worth risking a potential job. When the employer offers you a position and if they haven't already told you, then and only then do you ask about pay. If it isn't what you expect you tell them "I'm sorry, the pay isn't what I expected so I will have to decline the offer." If they want you bad enough they may meet your demands and if they don't they will be ok with it and move on.

7. Try to avoid telling personal stories that lead to "revealing" what should be private information. I know this is difficult because sometimes, especially in casual interviews, you can fall easily into this trap. It might not be a "trap" in the sense that it is intentionally set by the potential employer but again, the employer is making mental notes. Avoid telling them you have children. Legally, you don't have to and legally, they can't ask. Don't talk about your family troubles like the drug addicted sister, the needy mother, the absent father, the slacker husband, etc... Anytime you share some part of your life the employer immediately digests that information and then ponders whether or not these things are significant and in some way can impair your ability to work (whether that means taking you away from your job or consuming your mind so much that your productivity will be lacking.) KEEP ALL PERSONAL DETAILS TO YOURSELF. It would serve you well to know what an employer can and cannot ask and I would stick within that guideline as well when it comes to sharing information. Here is a list of 30 questions that can't be asked in an interview: CLICK HERE

8. Don't interrupt. If the employer is talking and blabbing on for what feels like an eternity just keep on nodding and smiling. People who interrupt are NOT good listeners. You want to give the impression you are a good listener, even if you aren't. This is fact. I've had to train myself to be a better listener over the years so I can attest to this. There are even some courses on how to be a better listener. I don't like to call it a personality flaw because we are who we are but we do need to learn when listening is important and an interview is that time.

9. Know something about the job you applied for and the company/person offering the job. Would you go into Microsoft seeking employment without knowing Bill Gates is the founder and that they manufacturer a number of computer products? Maybe you would but you shouldn't! This goes back to the money issue. Not knowing anything about Microsoft would tell them interviewer that you need a paycheck (and who doesn't) but the job itself is secondary = NOT GOOD EMPLOYEE!

10. Always arrive on time, better yet be early! Although most people already know this, being late to an interview means your likely to be late a lot to work.

11. Don't fidget in your seat. This gives the impression that you are nervous, which is ok, but it also gives the impression that you are insecure and that isn't ok. Insecure people need lots of guidance and employers want to feel they can trust you with the job, whether it is done independently or not.

12. Don't talk negativity about past employers. All it shows is that you have no respect and your likely to do the same to the potential employer. No one wants to be raked through the coals behind their back and all stories have two sides, so if your slagging off a past or current employer it is just a sign of your inability to hold your tongue and quite possibly you've represented yourself as the new "gossip" monger of the company which we all know leads to office politics and no one wants that.

13. Don't tell the employer that you have applied to numerous other companies. What this tells the interviewer is that, one: you could actually leave your current position with their company if one of these "other" companies you applied to comes a calling, two: you are desperate.

14. Don't blame anyone for leaving past jobs, even if there are legitimate reasons. I left a job at a church because the Pastor I was hired under left after 4 years and a new one came in. She and I didn't see eye to eye so I left that position. Actually the entire staff of 5 left because of the new pastor and of course in a new job interview I could explain the ins and outs of that story, afterall I had 4 other staff members that would concur with what I had to say but it is all irrelevant. Don't get stuck on triviality. No one cares if you and your former boss had a beef or if you and a former co-worker couldn't breath the same air. You can still be honest without revealing details. In my case, I would say that I left that position because I had been there 4 years and at the time I wanted to explore something new. Unless your resume shows you jumping job to job every six months, wanting to explore something new after 4 years isn't a big deal and "exploring something new" might translate as the new boss and I didn't see eye to eye but the interviewer will appreciate that you didn't slag off the old boss even if you could prove she was a wench.

15. Refrain from bringing people to interviews with you. This is all about being able to stand on your own as an adult. Confidence and security is what you want to emit and bringing mom or hubby to interview emits the opposite. Bringing kids to an interview is sooo baaaaaaaaaad. Although it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me as an employer because I have kids an understand that need but some employers will see that as an inability to balance home life with work life. If you can't leave the kids at home or with a sitter than reschedule the interview.

16. Last, for heavens sake don't lie on an application ESPECIALLY if a background check is involved. No one wants a liar working for their company for a thousand reasons. If you broke the law, tell the potential employer. Most times, depending on the crime, employers see past that. You're just hurting yourself by lying. Same goes for falsifying experience or education. Eventually it all comes to light and the embarrassment and possible prosecution is NOT WORTH IT!
Some of the flowers I planted. This is butterfly weed. I thought it was so pretty growing around the lake, I decided to plant some in the yard.
We recently took a small trip to the North Shore of Minnesota. Always a beautiful location to spend time in with the family.
Well, my life right now is about getting my garden in order, cleaning out the house (seriously, I have a roll-off sitting in the driveway), nursing my poor hubby back to health (threw his back out last week and hasn't recovered yet), taking care of my babies (children and my bees). I've been focussing on the bee venture lately (obsessing is a better word) so I haven't been doing much creating for my website. Gawd, I feel guilty about that. Hang in there people, hang in there, it is coming I swear. I did manage to create a custom order of foaming body polish.
This has to be the best sign of spring. While hubby was adding fresh cedar mulch around the perimeter of our home he found a nest of little bunnies. We decided to leave that area alone until they were grown and gone. Hubby found them in a hole under our front door mat that had blown onto the ground over the
My equipment arrived! My husband went from a nice healthy brown to a very pale sickly white when he saw me unwrapping the hive. The delivery man couldn't even maintain composure. He asked if I was making honey. It sounded funny me making honey since the bees are the only ones making anything.
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