Showing posts with label homeschooling. Show all posts
Showing posts with label homeschooling. Show all posts

Monday, May 25, 2020


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In 2013 I began to homeschool our then 6 year old. I was terrified at first that I wouldn't be able to educate my daughter as well as a public school teacher could. I worried she wouldn't find friends so she'd suffer socially. I experienced a lot of self doubt but I was encouraged by a friend who had homeschooled her two children all the way up to college. Now her eldest son is enrolled at the University of Chicago studying to obtain his PhD in evolutionary biology & botany. Knowing she could do a great job educating her children gave me the faith that I could also.

(Short Version) Our oldest child was educated by the public school system and it was quite the journey for our family. When she started school I enrolled her in a public charter school. By the middle of 1st grade we removed her because she was struggling academically and instead of the teacher's working with us to help her catch up in the areas she was being challenged they labelled her as suffering from ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) and told us she needed to be medicated. Her piano teacher who had a couple of students struggling with ADHD disagreed with that assessment. Her pediatrician who had a lot of experience with kids struggling with ADHD also disagreed with that assessment. So, I transferred her to a Christian private school (Lutheran). I thought the small class sizes (12 per teacher) would help her remain focussed and learn better. Her teacher's knew our reasoning for transferring her to their school mid year. Within a month her 1st grade teacher said my daughter definitely struggled with ADHD but didn't think it was to the point of needing medication, by 2nd grade that opinion changed. Together her 1st and then 2nd grade teacher agreed that she needed to be medicated and made it clear that if we objected they could legally force us to do it. Wanting to avoid going to court over the issue we spoke with our pediatrician who was willing to prescribe Adderall as a trial run to see if it would help her focus. All it accomplished was severe weight loss and lethargy. My very creative, bubbly child became a depressed lump on the couch so I made an appointment with a psychologist. The psychologist disagreed with the assessment that she had ADHD. I then consulted a lawyer that informed us if the school forced the issue of medication they'd have a legal challenge on their hands and at that point I was willing to take it that far. There was no way I would allow my kid to be drugged again especially knowing that 4 kids in her class were already being medicated for ADHD. I found that highly suspicious. Also, not one teacher from the private or charter school had ever informed us of any issues with our daughter. It wasn't until I mentioned that I noticed she wasn't reading as well as her peers that they then diagnosed her with ADHD. As parents our mistake was believing we needed their guidance to help her but they wouldn't provide any assistance other than to label our daughter with a disorder I later would learn they were not qualified to do.

At that point I stopped giving her the medication and the following year I enrolled her in the Kumon Tutoring Center and the director there told me to remove her from the Christian school immediately and send her to a public school of her (the director's) choosing. I did. After the new school assessed the situation they determined my daughter had been so poorly educated in those early years at the charter school and private school that she had several gaps in her learning and because she was behind she would daydream in class which led to falling further behind.

After my daughter enrolled in the new public school she did very well. The principal ran the school with an iron fist, I liked that because it made the teachers exceptional. The principle stayed in constant contact with the director at Kumon and my daughter began to thrive. Sadly she didn't completely catch up to where she needed to be by the time she hit 6th grade. Luckily, in middle school there were several teachers that tutored students outside of school so we hired math teachers over the summer to help her get caught up. Unfortunately, because my daughter was very artistic, always positive, friendly but introverted, she was bullied repeatedly by boys in middle school. One boy had to be reported for sexual harassment twice for refusing to keep his hands to himself. Middle school was not a happy place for her. She was adored by teachers for being respectful, always willing to help, engaged in class, and hardworking but not always embraced by all her peers because she was not into trends and didn't succumb to peer pressure.

In high school things were good and bad. The school bombarded my daughter with an excessive amount of homework. She had absolutely no social life for most of 9-12th. At this point she was now working for the same Kumon tutoring center she had been educated by and she was getting As and Bs in school, but she would be locked in her room for 4 hours a day doing school work and we learned that was pretty much the norm for many of the students at her high school. It finally broke her end of 9th grade. All of the stress from the teacher's at the private school, trying to catch up in areas where she was behind, the bullying from middle school, the drama she was now facing with students in high school, the constant pressure etc... It became too much. After having a panic attack one morning we decided to keep her home from school for a few days. We had many long talks and we again consulted with a psychologist that taught her how to cope with stress, which she was having trouble with at that point. She later returned to doing 4 hours of school work each night but with a whole new outlook on life. She learned how to filter out the things she didn't understand like: her peers taking drugs, the physical fights in the hallways, the girls cutting themselves, the promiscuity and teen pregnancies, the competitiveness amongst students, the insecurities about who had better clothing or the latest cell phone. After she graduated high school she enrolled in community college and worked two jobs. Once she obtained her Associates Degree she enrolled in the the BFA at the University and is now completing her degree. Once she is done she intends to go for her MFA. She has come a long way but not without a lot of bumps and bruises that could have been avoided had we homeschooled her.

My youngest child was born 11 years after my eldest. I had learned a lot about our charter schools and public school system by the time she came into our lives but even so, after she finished preschool we enrolled her in public school kindergarten. One thing we noticed almost immediately (among other things) was the lack of control her teacher had over the entire class and we didn't want a repeat of what we went through with our older child. There were a couple of boys in the class that demanded all of the attention and did not understand the meaning of sit down, be quiet, and behave. It made learning for the other 25 children very difficult, so I decided to remove her and give homeschooling a try.

We found a very welcoming (secular) homeschooling community almost immediately. I think we are fortunate here in Minnesota to have a lot of homeschooling support. My daughter is now 13 and in 7th grade.

BTW/ Secular, for those that don't know, means not religious. Seems everyone has their own way of defining what secular means but what I've experienced over the years is that secular can mean you are, for example, a Christian but you don't bring any type of religious attitude or belief into how you homeschool. Of course most of the secular homeschool groups are agnostic or atheists but not all. There are Muslims, Christians, etc... but they don't use religious material to educate their children and they don't bring their religion to homeschool activities or other functions. They may attend a church or a mosque but that is the extent to which they take their religious beliefs. Those that are much more conservative in their beliefs and adhere strictly to religious doctrine would not be part of a secular homeschool group. Believe it or not, there are people who have a religion that don't believe in indoctrinating their children.
This brings me to the point of my blog post. I recently read that Harvard was holding a Homeschooling Summit titled "Problems, Politics, and Prospects for Reform." Not open to the public! Below is an explanation on what the summit is about. 

On the surface it doesn't look like a big deal. I think education can always be improved and homeschoolers are not immune to problems especially in states with zero oversight. I personally believe all states should require annual assessment testing for homeschoolers the way my state does. It is definitely one tool that helps me as a parent make sure my daughter is meeting the educational requirements set by the state. But what I learned is that isn't what the Harvard homeschooling summit is really about. Prof. Elizabeth Bartholet, who calls herself a "child advocate", is the leading force behind the summit and she has it in her head that all homeschoolers have evil intentions. In her law review article she states that 90% of homeschoolers are driven by Christian beliefs and seek to remove their children from mainstream culture. Before I continue I have to say in full disclosure that I am not a republican or conservative and never have been. I am a progressive environmentalist. Not a single person in our homeschooling group supports the Republican Party, not even those who are Christians. Now back to Elizabeth.

If you read over her review you'll see that she has an issue with conservatives and devout Christians. She cherry picks homeschool cases to reaffirm her view that children who are homeschooled are somehow at a disadvantage and quite possibly in serious danger. Her view does not reflect reality at all. Sure, there will be families that homeschool and abuse their children or leave them to their own devices so they emerge at 18 a bumbling idiot but that also happens every day with public schooled kids. Every person in America knows at least one person who graduated from a public school that can barely spell or one that was physically or sexually abused and never got help. Should I list the names of those I know?

For a Harvard Professor Elizabeth Bartholet made a really weak case for why homeschooling need to be micromanaged but I will make a strong case for why many families choose not to send their children to public school and I will conclude with how awesome homeschooling has been for my youngest. So here ya go...

For starters, contrary to what Bartholet says in her review, most people don't homeschool to remove their children from mainstream culture unless you consider violence and child abuse part of our culture. Parents often homeschool because they fear for their child's mental health and physical safety. Many also homeschool because their district schools are poorly run and at home they can provide a better education. 

Homeschooling Facts

Within the homeschooling community I know, including those of friends I have that homeschool in other states, I have never heard any of the following being an issue, but everything on this list is a problem in public schools.

1. Teen pregnancy - I have yet to even hear of a homeschooled child getting pregnant. You hear about it every single day in public school.
CDC teen pregnancy statistics

2. Drug Use - Common amongst high schoolers in public school.  
The Monitoring Our Future Survey was funded by the National Institute on Drug Abuse.

3. Self Harm - In 2018 according to a survey of high school students the American Journal of Public Health found nearly 1 out of 4 teenage girls inflicts harm to themselves on purpose. The rate of boys reporting self harm without wanting to die was 1 out of 10.

4. Peer Pressure - Peer pressure in high school
Teacher's, Parents Need to Know About Peer Teen Pressure

5. Lock Down Drill for Active Shooters - 57% of students surveyed said they worried about a shooting happening at their school.
Experts worry active shooter drills in schools could be traumatic for students
What are active shooter drills doing to our kids?

6. Bullying - 1 out of every 5 students reports being bullied in public and private school according to the National Center for Educational Statistics 2019. The reasons for being bullied include physical appearance, sexual orientation, religion, disability, gender, race/ethnicity. Bullying statistics.

7. Violence -

National Center for Education Statistics - School Crime

8. Molestation by Teachers - an estimated 10% of K-12 students will experience sexual misconduct by a school employee by the time they graduate from high school according to a study funded by the U.S. Department of Justice.

9. Teacher Abuse (Teachers being assaulted by students) - According to federal education data 6% of the nations 3.8 million teachers were physically assaulted by students. Nearly 10% were threatened with injury.

10. Alcohol Consumption - according to the Youth Risk Behavior survey done by the CDC in 2017 on high school students (public and charter): 30% drank alcohol, 14% binge drink, 6% drove after drinking, 17% rode with a driver who had been drinking. "Results from the 2017 Ntl YRBS indicated that many high school students are engaged in health-risk behaviors associated with the leading causes of death among persons aged 10-24 years in the United States."

11. Vaping - Another survey done by the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan found vaping is a skyrocketing trend in high school. 32% of 10th graders and 37% of 12th graders reported vaping within the last year (2018 survey).

12. Sexual Assault by Fellow Students: K-12 schools keep mishandling sexual assault complaints. Will new Title IX regulations help?

13. Poor Education - according to the Ntl Center for Education Statistics between Oct. 2015 and Oct 2016 523,000 students between 15-24 yrs left high school without obtaining a degree or going on to obtain a GED. 

US students continue to lag behind peers in East Asia and Europe in reading, math, and science, exams show.

US students show no improvement in math, reading, and science on international exam.

The US was once the leader for healthcare and education - now it ranks 27th in the world

Just have to eldest had to evacuate public school once over a bomb threat and once for a chemical spill. Fun times!

After reading about the Harvard Homeschool Summit I saw this on Twitter.

Ridiculous, right? Yes! But what's just as idiotic as the poster in the photo above are the comments that came after it was posted. Someone suggested the young girl in the photo must be homeschooled and these were the responses that followed:

The very first comment by Miz Ulmer is quite sad for a retired school teacher from Texas.  It does explain why some parents don't like or trust certain public school teachers though. Here you have one judging a whole group based on her experience with just a few. According to the U.S. Census Bureau over 1.5 million children are homeschooled in the United States. I wouldn't want my child being educated by an individual that teaches stereotypes or one who would encourage my child to ever think they know everything about ALL people based on a handful of experiences. 

Pediatrician Whitney Edwards thinks that homeschooling because you live a nomadic lifestyle is a good reason but not if you want to avoid having your children exposed to active shooter drills, a 10% chance of being molested, getting sexually or physically assaulted by a fellow student, bullying, watching your teacher get their head smashed into the cement by a student (that happened in St. Paul, Minnesota at Central High School in 2015 - teacher ended up with a traumatic brain injury). Remember, the majority of families surveyed said they homeschooled because they were "concerned about the environment at schools."

Whitney also says homeschooling prevents kids from hearing diverse voices and it's the reason behind why most people homeschool. I admit, my daughter doesn't spend time with conservatives. My daughter is Mexican and my husband is from Mexico. If you follow politics I really don't have to say much more about that. Plus, our society is very polarized right now so I am sure a Trump supporting family would not enjoy being around us anymore than we'd enjoy being around them. With that said, you tell me. This is my daughter. Without knowing anything about her, does she come across as being dangerous to society and lacking in the diversity department?

^ Here she is helping to table for a non-profit that protects gray wolves

^Here she is holding a sign while walking to protest a pipeline that would negatively impact indigenous lands in our state

^Here she is attending a rally at the state capitol to protect Lake Superior from sulfide mining.

^Here she is with her big sister meeting with our state rep. on behalf of the Humane Society to protect wildlife and pets in our state. 

Yes, my daughter knows how government works. She has been meeting with members of our state legislature since she could walk. Shocking, right? After all, she's homeschooled.

No, we are not the exception, though I'm sure that is what the homeschool hating crowd would like people to believe. We call that willful ignorance. 

I could say that Whitney Edwards is the one that needs some diversity training. After all, she is very judgmental when it comes to homeschooling families and she is attaching her negative views to a picture of a child expressing her own personal views. 

Now let's move on to the writer John R Johnson's comments. He says there is no rational reason to homeschool our children. Well, I think 1-13 listed above are excellent reasons to homeschool. 

John Johnson says homeschooled children exist within an impermeable bubble yet when someone came along and disagreed with his statements about why parents homeschool and gives a logical reason why her parents homeschooled her he says she has no manners and then mocks the fact that she was once bullied. Obviously ignoring the fact he set off the tone of that conversation by insulting over a million homeschoolers across the United States and reaffirming her point about being homeschooled - bullying. 

Wow! Maybe John Johnson is projecting on that impermeable bubble comment. 

Enough said about all that. Now let me tell you what homeschooling our youngest has been like for our family.

Our youngest daughter is a lot like her older sister. She is very artistic and a bit of an introvert. She is also a voracious reader and writer who also loves nature and animals. When I ask if she believes in God she says "I'm not sure, I believe there's something." When I ask her if she wants children she says "yes, but I don't want to give birth so I will probably adopt" When I ask what she wants to do for a career she says "I'm not sure yet, something in the arts" 

Here she is reading the book IT by Stephen King

Here she is building a dollhouse to occupy her time during the covid lock down.

Homeschool has allowed our daughter to flourish without the pressures and fears that come with going to public school. Her annual assessment exams continually show her scoring above grade level and more importantly, she is happy!

Let's look at some of the biggest misconceptions people have about homeschooling.

1. Kids aren't socialized.

My daughter has genuine social experiences NOT the robotic kind you find in public schools where the teachers control the time, setting, and nature of the conversations. She never gets sent to detention for trying to talk to her friends.

My daughter goes to a local college to participate in their homeschooling fitness program along with dozens of other children of various age groups. She attends fun outside classes in science (taught by a naturalist and environmental educator), acting (taught by a local theater company) sewing (taught by a retired home economics teacher), and history (taught by fellow homeschooling parents) where she again encounters numerous children. We meet weekly with other homeschooling families at a local park. She is in constant contact with a core group of 5 friends. She also goes on multiple field trips and to camps throughout the year.

One of my favorite parts of homeschooling is the wide range of ages children learn to socialize with. Our group has children from birth to age 15 and a variety of age groups will play games or sports on our meet-up days. The older kids are always helping the younger kids. The boys and girls hang out together. My daughter's closest friends are 3 boys and 2 girls.

NO, this is NOT unique to our family. All of what we do is typical for homeschooling families.

2. We are not meeting state standards when we educate our children.

Our family, like many others, uses a curriculum designed to meet state standards. We chose Oakmeadow for our daughter. There are numerous curriculums to choose from.

Our state also requires all homeschooled students take a nationally normed achievement test every year and the test must be approved by the superintendent.

3. We homeschool to control how our children think.

Quite the opposite. Herd mentality is what you get in a public school. Learning is an organic process. We treat our children as the individuals they are by understanding that not everyone learns exactly the same. It is the cookie cutter education that can be harmful to some children. In public school, kids are pressured by teachers and their peers to conform. In homeschool, children are allowed to explore various learning styles and activities that fit their needs best. In public school most kids drink and do drugs because their friends are doing it. Most kids want the latest cell phone and the trendiest clothing because that's what their friends have. Schools are not teaching kids critical thinking skills. If they did we wouldn't have the majority of the nation believing everything they read on the internet. The 2016 presidential election was decided by people who had zero critical thinking skills, most of which went to public school.

Funny fact - Miz Ulmer, Whitney Edwards and John Johnson all became the poster children for why some families homeschool. They represent what public school has to offer. Indoctrinating children into the belief that if others are different than you they must be strange and therefore dangerous. Imagine those three being parents of children your child encounters when she first enrolls in public school after being homeschooled. Think about how those children would treat your child.

The end.

(Previous post on homeschool myths)

Saturday, August 22, 2015


Kids are always getting bit by something; mosquitos, black flies, deer flies, gnats, sand fleas… you name it and when they get bit they scratch, scratch, scratch and whine, whine, whine so as a parent you search for something to stop the itch and unfortunately everything you find is usually some commercial concoction that never really works anyway.  So what should you do? Reach for plantain.

Plantain is a child's best friend in the summer.  It not only stops the itch from biting bugs but it also ends the pain caused by stinging insects too.  My kids usually just grab a handful of plantain leaves, chew it up and slap it on the spot that needs attention but sometimes it is more convenient to have a plantain salve, like when out on a lake in a canoe or during travel when bringing fresh leaves along or finding it in the wild just isn't feasible.  So I had Aiyana make her first container of salve.

Here is a picture of plantain and you can read more about it HERE

To help identify plantain in the wild, here are a few helpful pictures

These seeds grow up from the center of the plantain plant

Plantain leaf

When you tear a plantain leaf you should see little vein strings as shown above

First, Aiyana went out and gathered a bunch of plantain leaves.

Washed and dried them.

Chopped them up.

Added them to the olive oil then heated.  The plantain sat in the warm oil for 2 hours.  This is the rush method.  I usually prefer keeping medicinal plants in a jar with oil for up to 6 weeks before straining but my daughter and I are on a mission, or I should say I am on a mission to teach as much as possible before the snow flies. LOL! So… we went with the rush method.  This oil sat for a week in the jar after  they were heated for 2 hrs.

She strained the oil out of the jar.

There are various ways you can extract the medicinal properties from a plant; we chose the solvent oil. You can tell the oil did its job by the color difference you see below.  Olive oil on left, plantains beneficial properties extracted into the olive oil on the right. 

 We poured the plantain oil into a double boiler, heated it up, added some beeswax to make the salve.

We think plantain oil stinks so we added lavender essential oil to to cut the smell.  Some people will add essential oils because of their beneficial properties but it is important to remember that eos are damaged by high heat, so to maintain their effectiveness you do not want to heat them above 80 degrees.  We used lavender eo in this recipe purely for the natural scent.

Here's the finished product after poured into tiny tins.

Couple notes on Plantain salve vs. Plantain leaves, we've found that the plant works much faster to relieve itching than the salve so if you have a choice, use the actual leaves from the plant.  The salve works but it takes a little more time.  We've also learned that it works really well on our dogs.  We have one dog that happens to be allergic to bug bites and certain types of material and when he develops hives the plantain salve brings about relief.

Herbal Roots does have an e-zine on plantain that is really good also.  The salve above is not listed but other crafts and ways of using the herbs are.


4 oz fresh plantain leaves
16 oz olive oil
.5 oz beeswax
24 drops lavender essential oil

Wednesday, July 29, 2015


I decided it was time to teach my youngest about herbs.  After quizzing her I found that she knows quite a bit but it was time to incorporate some fun stuff.  We are going to work our way through as many herbs as we can until winter arrives and our herb garden and wild medicinal plants have died back.  For each herb she is journaling, coloring, and creating. 

A while back I found this book:
You can find this for sale on Amazon - CLICK HERE
It has a bunch of cute kid stories about herbs such as The Lion and the Wise Teacher about dandelions or The Star's Gift about lemon balm.  It is a perfect addition to our herb study.  We also subscribe to Herbal Roots Zine which focusses on one particular herb and contains crafts, herbal remedies, stories, etc... Those we'll save for when the plants are all gone and it's too cold to go outside. The rest is all mom.  I created a "type" of herb curriculum that we'll be following until she tells me "mom, stop, I can't take anymore." LOL!

We started with Aiyana picking out a plant of her own to communicate with and she chose lavender.  She started talking to it, asking it questions… once she understood that on a basic energetic level we are connected to all things, even something as simple as a plant we moved on to lemon balm, my favorite herb.  It was the first herb I planted when we moved into our home 8 yrs ago and it has pretty much taken over a quarter of our yard (expected and wanted).

Unfortunately, our lemon balm has passed its prime for the season.  It now has flowers and no longer has that strong lemony scent which means the oil content is low.  My daughter is already somewhat familiar with the herb so it wasn't a problem, we just picked up the dried version from our local natural food store and worked with that.

No, it's not Lemon Ballom. LOL! We corrected that later. 
What did she create? Tea.  She loved making her own tea, can't say she loved the taste so much though. LOL! I told her as we move into other herbs she'll combine several for a much better tasting tea :-)



Plantain is perfect for bug bites and our mosquitos are now out in full force so my daughter will be making a plantain salve for those nasty itchy bites she always gets.
So, today we started with Lemon Balm.

Sunday, February 1, 2015


After my 7 yr old told me that a public school child told her we were weirdos for homeschooling I decided to blog about the misconceptions of homeschooling.

(Some misconceptions are being discussed here: DEBATE.ORG)

Why are people so threatened by homeschooling? So threatened that they make up information or repeat what they've heard without fact checking. 

When I first heard about homeschooling it was from my mother.  I was curious about it but she had a negative view of people who home schooled their children, her view was that a parent wasn't qualified to teach, so I didn't ask too many questions.  With education my mothers view of home school did change later though. 

The 2nd time I heard about homeschooling was from a woman I met at our local gym.  She worked in the childcare center and her children became friends with my child. She was weird. Her kids were unruly and they weren't very bright. Her religion took priority over education from what I could tell and it was just odd to me but it didn't keep me from wanting to know more about homeschooling.  

Fast forward to when my daughter was in 4th grade.  We had a home schooled child join our Girl Scout Troop. She was the only child in a group of 9 that was home schooled and she was quiet, sweet, respectful and very smart. What I remember about her the most is how well behaved she was, better than the other 9 kids (including my own). She wasn't bouncing all over the place vying for attention from her peers, she appeared very secure in herself.  That is the overall experience I've had with home schooled children since. 

I won't preach about homeschool being the perfect solution to our educational system because there are too many variables; bad parents, kids with severe learning disabilities, parents that are overwhelmed with too many other responsibilities, etc… the list goes on.  I have three children and my oldest graduated from public school and my middle child is still in public school.  So, this post isn't about what is or isn't the perfect way to educate your child, this post is about anti-homeschooling people spreading misinformation. So here we go, the comments that homeschooling families hear so often (taken from the website linked above):

1. Home schooled children are not being socialized. 

Clearly those who say that have no idea how to define socialization so here it is: a continuing process whereby an individual acquires a personal identity and learns the norms, values, behavior, and social skills appropriate to his or her social situation.

Here are a couple responses (on the topic of socialization) from  This is from the "no, children shouldn't be educated at home" side.

So making out during recess, dealing with bullies and hearing cuss words on a school bus makes you a more well-rounded individual?

For me to even take this person seriously they'd first have to spell words correctly or write a coherent sentence.  Let's see the rest of that post:

Here you see it again… bullying. Why do so many anti-homeschool people think that being bullied is an essential part of growing up? If being bullied was a necessary part of childhood then why is society now fighting so hard against it? Kids are committing suicide because they are bullied, states are enacting laws to prosecute bullies, etc… So which is it, kids need to be bullied or they don't? 

Now onto the next misconception, making friends and getting out of the house.

Let's start with friends.

I think forming friendships can be an issue for anyone depending on the circumstances.  For home schoolers the challenge with finding friends almost always has to do with being new to the home school world and it isn't dissimilar to how it would feel moving to a new town and enrolling your child in a new school.  It can take time for kids to connect with others, form friendships and get to know their new surroundings.  Personally, I find public school to be more sad in that regard. How many kids have enrolled in a new school and found it difficult to find new friends? There are so many cliques in public school, so many "groups" like the jocks, the nerds, the preppies, etc… and if you don't fit in you may be shunned.  How often do we hear that the kid who took a gun to school and shot their peers were bullied and didn't have friends? Almost always. I've never seen that type of problem with home schooled kids.

Activities and field trips.

Home schooled kids tend to be some of the busiest.  My own child is in gymnastics, Girl Scouts, goes to LifeTime Fitness 3x's a week, attends camps at a local nature center, participates in numerous activities and field trips (most of these trips and activities are with kids that are not home schooled).  In fact, home schooled kids tend to do 10x as many field trips as children in public school, most are not just sitting at home at a table all day.  The bonus for home schooled kids and so many outside activities and field trips is that they aren't just being exposed to kids their own age, they connect with people of all ages which makes them well-rounded socially.  I often hear how well spoken, polite and friendly my daughter is and I know a good part of that is because she isn't being tainted by the kids in public school.  You know, the ones that think you should be bullied in the cafeteria and learn cuss words on the school bus. 

2. Kids who are home schooled don't get vaccinated, if they go to public school they are required to have all vaccinations. 

Well… just an FYI, there are a lot of kids in public school that haven't been vaccinated.  I don't know about all 50 states but in my home state if we refuse a vaccine we just fill out  a form stating an "elected exemption", have it signed by the doctor and turn it in to the school.  The law protects a citizens right to refuse vaccines whether you are educated at home or in a school.  Most of the home school families I know of are proponents of vaccines and you'll see a variety of opinions on vaccinations by parents who homeschool if you've ever read a homeschool FB group. 

The CDC provides information about each states laws pertaining to the vaccination requirement.  To learn more CLICK HERE.  To see information about exemptions in each state CLICK HERE.

3. Homeschooling is not regulated.  

Not true. Again, every state is different and some are more strict than others.  CLICK HERE to see regulations by state. Personally, I like the home school laws in my state, not too strict and not too lenient.  On an annual basis in my state we must file an intent to homeschool with the district Superintendent, teach specified subjects and participate in yearly standardized testing.  If you want to see the requirements in each state CLICK HERE.

4. Home school makes it easier for parents to abuse their children.

You'll see this reference in the post I screen captured above and it something that gets hammered to death by the media when a homeschooling family is charged with abuse.  Sure, some kids that are home schooled are subjected to physical and sexual abuse just like some kids that go to public school are being physically and sexually abused. Whether one form of education makes abuse easier is really irrelevant. Physical and sexual abuse is happening everywhere and if it were more difficult to do to children in public school then why are so many kids in public school being abused? How many people today talk about being abused as children and yet no one knew? Abuse stays hidden because the perpetrator is manipulative and crafty not because the environment makes it conducive.  Don't belittle what is happening to children or take away the responsibility of the perpetrator by blaming a persons choice of how to educate their child. 

5. Kids can't participate in team sports.

My daughter played soccer for 2 years and I am pretty sure it was a team because she wasn't playing by herself (sorry, just being sarcastic about the team part).  She's decided that for now gymnastics is more her thing so she may or may not go back to soccer.  Kids don't only have access to team sports through public schools.  Community based organizations offer team sports and in my state, depending on the district, public schools also allow home schooled children to participate in public school activities or sports.  CLICK HERE to read which states allow home school kids to participate in public school sports.

6. Home schooled kids can't go to college.

When I was first considering home school for my youngest I worried a lot about her ability to get into college.  I started looking up various colleges and checking out their entrance requirements.  Turns out  most of the colleges I looked at accepted home schooled kids.  This is pretty typical under "application requirements" on college websites: 

University of Minnesota, Crookstone


I've met a nurse, pastor and teacher that were home schooled and I have homeschooling friends that currently have kids in college.  Going to public school doesn't guarantee success getting into or doing well in college but still anti-homeschoolers single out home schooled kids as being unable to go to college due to their "alternative" education.  Here are a couple misconceptions about home schooled kids getting into college:

7. Homeschool kids can't go to college because they don't earn a high school diploma.  

Colleges don't ask to see your high school diploma, at least mine didn't. I went to a four year private college and I needed three letters of recommendation, ACT scores and high school transcripts when I applied, not once was I asked for a diploma.  My oldest daughter didn't submit her diploma when she applied to college, she sent in her high school transcript also.  It's the subjects studied and the grades earned that colleges want to see and home schooled kids can provide that information.  We can also create a diploma but no one will ever ask to look at it so it is pretty pointless. 

8. Home schooled kids aren't ready for college like their public school peers.  

Home school situations vary like public school situations. Sure, there will be home schooled kids that don't receive the education that may be required to enroll in their college of choice just as many public school kids are not prepared to enroll in college.  More and more public school kids are falling through the cracks due to lack of parent involvement, large class sizes, incompetent teachers, etc… There are a whole host of reasons children in public school fail to succeed but research has shown that colleges are are very interested in home schooled students and these articles are a reflection of that:

This one makes me laugh because I've known several public school teachers that shouldn't be allowed to teach.  Why do we question whether a parent is qualified to teach but not question teachers? Just because someone holds a degree doesn't make them teacher material.  This is actually one of the things that kept me from home schooling my children.  I wanted to home school for many years before ever getting the courage to do so and it was because anti-homeschoolers had me believe a parent wasn't qualified so I put all my faith in private and public school teachers and this is what it got me:

My 14 yr old had one of the worst teachers ever in 3rd grade. I watched her standardized test scores go from above average to nearly below average in just one testing year.  That particular teacher was removed from the school after only teaching one year.

My oldest child couldn't read until she was in the 2nd grade. Her first grade teacher made excuses for my daughters inability to read or even do basic math, she even told me it was MY child (her teacher diagnosed her as ADHD) and NOT HER teaching that was the problem which later, after much testing, seeing a doctor and psychologist, turned out to be completely false. It turned out that my daughter had missed all of the basics in 1st grade, it was literally as if she was taught nothing for an entire year. I'd been questioning her teacher for months and she kept reassuring me all was ok until I accused her of not being a good teacher then all of a sudden my daughter was ADHD.  Thankfully there were good teachers and tutors that helped my daughter catch up and get back to where she should be but it took nearly 4 yrs for that to happen and a lot of money.  She graduated on time and her GPA never fell below 3.2 after 7th grade.

My home schooled child took her first standardized test after I taught her entire first grade and she scored at a 2nd grade level in Math and a 3rd grade level in Language Arts.  So… let's just skip the part about parents not being qualified to teach.  Being qualified to teach isn't about having a degree in education it is about knowing your child, understanding their learning style and being committed to their education. No one knows their child better and no one should be more committed to their child's educational success than their parent.

So, this was just a few of the crazy things people say about home schooled kids.  Instead of accepting that home school is just another way of educating a child some people become very defensive and downright rude when they know or hear of someone that home schools. It is silly and I think it is really a reflection of that persons own insecurities.

Next time you have the opportunity to learn the facts about home schooling, take it! You'll realize homeschooling families are much like your own family the only difference is that they've chosen a different way to educate their child, a way that they believe is best for THEIR child.